Sunday, February 13, 2011

"Muslim speed dating, anyone?"

As salaam alaikum,

That quote was from me, back in July of last year in my entry "[uncensored]: Reaja / React" calling for some solutions to the ever-dysfunctional Muslim courtship world in the United States. I should have known that someone already tried it.

I read the article, and wow. Really?

I think it's incredibly ironic that the man who is setting these up (1) Married for love (which one of the interviewed fathers decried, saying that such marriages only last up to two years) and (2) Did not marry a Muslim. He married an Orthodox Jewish woman. And yet he's setting up a speed-dating service for (South Asian) Muslims too embarrassed to give their last names, some of them even to be interviewed, with stilted conversation that reminds us that, as a community, a lot of young people don't know how to talk to each other.

We ain't ready...


  1. Speed dating kind of sketchy...Though I think we should figure out ways for Muslims to meet each other, these events are always awkward. I prefer no pressure informal gatherings over dinner, book clubs, etc....Muslims should have more real life book clubs as a way to highlight both our thoughts on a book and our personalities and differences

  2. Yes! A book club, I think, is the best model. If not, a film club, or any other forum where, face to face, brothers and sisters can sit and discuss things that matter to them. That way, we can get to know each other and see that we're not so different after all.

    The article just sounded like the opposite of anything fruitful.